After I went past my due date, the postpartum nanny we had originally booked suddenly canceled on us. I was about to give birth, so we had no choice but to urgently look for another postpartum nanny. Unexpectedly, through a lucky coincidence, Auntie Xu happened to be available. Looking back now, I truly feel incredibly fortunate.
On the day Auntie Xu came to our home, she had spent the entire day traveling from San Francisco to Seattle and did not arrive until the middle of the night. As soon as she came in, she left her luggage by the door, washed her hands, and immediately took the baby from my arms. She told me to put on more clothes so I would not catch a chill, and to hurry back to my room and sleep.
I had gone through 26 hours of labor in the hospital, a major hemorrhage, and then cared for the baby myself for 48 hours. I had not cried once through the entire process. But that night, when Auntie Xu took the baby from me and I finally lay down in bed, the tears suddenly started flowing. In that moment, I truly felt that someone had finally come to catch me—I could finally sleep without worry.
During our video interview, we had mentioned news stories about postpartum nannies secretly giving babies sleep aids and similar things, so as first-time parents we naturally had some concerns. The next day, Auntie Xu proactively opened her luggage for us to see and took out all the supplements and similar items she had brought, placing them in the kitchen. We had not asked her to do this at all, but this gesture made me feel that she was very open and straightforward and very considerate of new parents’ worries.
Our baby was a difficult little sleeper. She slept very lightly and would often open her eyes after falling asleep to check whether someone was beside her. Even the slightest sound could wake her. Auntie Xu was truly incredibly patient with her. Whenever she cried, Auntie Xu would pick her up and soothe her again and again, never becoming impatient because she was hard to settle.
Our baby later had a tongue-tie procedure, and Auntie Xu was also very experienced and patient with postoperative care. What impressed me especially was that when our little one had her tongue-tie procedure, she cried intensely. Seeing how uncomfortable the baby was, Auntie Xu herself was so heartbroken that she cried too. For us, it was truly rare to find a postpartum nanny who is both experienced and genuinely loves the baby.
Later on, our baby clearly recognized Auntie Xu. Near the end of Auntie Xu’s assignment, the baby was crying intensely from being overtired, and no matter how we tried to soothe her, nothing worked. As soon as Auntie Xu took her, held her, and said a few words to her, our little one immediately calmed down. That moment was both funny and hard to part with—the baby truly knew who had been caring for her every day that month.
Auntie Xu was also extremely attentive in caring for me after childbirth. I had never been in the habit of eating breakfast, but she worried that going too long without food during postpartum recovery would make me uncomfortable or cause low blood sugar. Every morning, she would repeatedly come to the kitchen to check whether I was up yet and find ways to get me to eat at least a little. She made three meals a day, nourishing soups, and postpartum drinks with variety. The food was relatively light and home-style, but also delicious. Most of the dishes in the photos were made for us by Auntie Xu—she truly fed our entire family very well.
In addition, Auntie Xu was very professional with traditional Chinese medicine techniques for stimulating milk production and relieving blocked milk ducts. She knew I was especially afraid of pain, so her technique was always very gentle. Early on, when I was very anxious because my milk supply was low, she was also consistently patient in comforting me and helping relieve my stress.
That month, Auntie Xu was not just a postpartum nanny who came to “care for the baby and make postpartum meals.” Especially during the period right after giving birth, when I was at my most disheveled, physically weakest, and completely unsure how to care for a newborn, having an experienced, reliable, and patient person at home truly brought us so much peace of mind.
When her assignment ended, our entire family found it very hard to say goodbye. The one who probably missed her most was our little one. If I have a second child in the future, I will definitely reserve two months of Auntie Xu’s availability well in advance.
Thank you, Auntie Xu, for accompanying our family through the first month of our baby’s life. Thank you as well for taking such good care of both me and my baby when I most needed rest and recovery.